A reader writes:
Any ideas on what Christian homosexuals should do if they no longer want to be homosexual and would like to have children with a woman? In other words, what could one do to change their sexual preference?
I’m afraid that I don’t have a lot of knowledge in this area, but we’ve had Dr. Joseph Nicolosi–a counselor who specializes in this area–on Catholic Answers Live before (LISTEN, DOWNLOAD).
I believe that Nicolosi is based in the L.A. area. If you live there you might be able to see him for help. Otherwise, you might be able to get a referral to someone in your area who could help.
Nicolosi is also head of a group called NARTH (National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality). Their website IS HERE.
There’s also a support group that I can recommend. It’s called Courage, and its website IS HERE.
Both the NARTH website and the Courage web site should contain links to additional resources, book recommendations, etc., as well as ways to contact folks dealing with the same issue.
I also have an additional piece of advice: It has long been my conviction that people should not define themselves by their sins or temptations. Thus I do not encourage people to identify themselves by saying "I am a homosexual" or "I am an alcoholic" or "I am an overeater" or "I am an anything else." People are people. They may have different temptations and different histories, but if they define themselves by the temptations they have or the mistakes they’ve made in the past, it will make it all the harder to deal with those temptations or overcome their past.
Everyone–regardless of their temptations or their backgrounds–is a person with dignity whom God loves and for whom Christ died and who, if he is a Christian, is indwelt by the Holy Spirit. Thus I would advise you not to think of yourself as a homosexual. You’re a person dear to God’s heart who happens to have same sex attractions to deal with, just as everyone has some kind of temptation to deal with. If you make the shift to thinking of yourself as a person who has an issue to overcome rather than as "a homosexual" then it will make it that much easier to overcome the problem.
Hope this helps, and God bless!
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