Curing Same-Sex Attractions

A reader writes:

Any ideas on what Christian homosexuals should do if they no longer want to be homosexual and would like to have children with a woman?  In other words, what could one do to change their sexual preference?

I’m afraid that I don’t have a lot of knowledge in this area, but we’ve had Dr. Joseph Nicolosi–a counselor who specializes in this area–on Catholic Answers Live before (LISTEN, DOWNLOAD).

I believe that Nicolosi is based in the L.A. area. If you live there you might be able to see him for help. Otherwise, you might be able to get a referral to someone in your area who could help.

Nicolosi is also head of a group called NARTH (National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality). Their website IS HERE.

There’s also a support group that I can recommend. It’s called Courage, and its website IS HERE.

Both the NARTH website and the Courage web site should contain links to additional resources, book recommendations, etc., as well as ways to contact folks dealing with the same issue.

I also have an additional piece of advice: It has long been my conviction that people should not define themselves by their sins or temptations. Thus I do not encourage people to identify themselves by saying "I am a homosexual" or "I am an alcoholic" or "I am an overeater" or "I am an anything else." People are people. They may have different temptations and different histories, but if they define themselves by the temptations they have or the mistakes they’ve made in the past, it will make it all the harder to deal with those temptations or overcome their past.

Everyone–regardless of their temptations or their backgrounds–is a person with dignity whom God loves and for whom Christ died and who, if he is a Christian, is indwelt by the Holy Spirit. Thus I would advise you not to think of yourself as a homosexual. You’re a person dear to God’s heart who happens to have same sex attractions to deal with, just as everyone has some kind of temptation to deal with. If you make the shift to thinking of yourself as a person who has an issue to overcome rather than as "a homosexual" then it will make it that much easier to overcome the problem.

Hope this helps, and God bless!

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Happy Flying Saucer Day!

UfoToday, June 24, back in 1947 was the day which led to the coining of the term "flying saucer."

Pilot Kenneth Arnold saw what appeared to him to be a series of fast flying objects that he afterwards described as skipping on the air like a saucer being skipped across the water.

He was misquoted by the press, though, as having said that he saw "flying saucers." Arnold tried to correct the impression, saying that he didn’t say that the craft were saucer shaped but that they moved like a someone skipping a saucer on the water.

His actual description was: "They were half-moon shaped, oval in front and convex in the rear. …they
looked like a big flat disk." What he thus described as more like a "flying wing" aircraft design (something we puny humans had actually already built). Nertheless, the term (and the shape) stuck.

He also didn’t say anything about them being from outer space. In 1947, hot on the heels of WWII and all the weapons and aviation research it involved (including what we were retrieving from the Nazis via classified projects like Operation Paperclip), might have made a more terrestrial explanation plausible.

But that didn’t stick either.

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REVEALED! Tom Cruise Shows Oprah The “True Power” Of Scientology

Hollywood was abuzz last night when Tom Cruise was spotted at the opera, talking to a young fan about "The Tragedy of Darth L-Ron the Hack" and encouraging him to "take a broader perspective" on things. He offered to show the unnamed fan "the true power and nature" of Scientology.

The next day, with the fan watching from the audience, Cuise appeared on the Oprah show. During the interview, the television host asked probing questions about about his political ambitions, prompting the following exchange. . . .

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REVEALED! Tom Cruise Shows Oprah The "True Power" Of Scientology

Hollywood was abuzz last night when Tom Cruise was spotted at the opera, talking to a young fan about "The Tragedy of Darth L-Ron the Hack" and encouraging him to "take a broader perspective" on things. He offered to show the unnamed fan "the true power and nature" of Scientology.

The next day, with the fan watching from the audience, Cuise appeared on the Oprah show. During the interview, the television host asked probing questions about about his political ambitions, prompting the following exchange. . . .

Continue reading “REVEALED! Tom Cruise Shows Oprah The "True Power" Of Scientology”

X Marks The Jewels

If you could wander the halls here at Catholic Answers, you’d be amazed at the tidbits you hear around the proverbial water cooler. Just the other day, a colleague told me about a real-life on-going treasure hunt. It sounded like just the thing for a blog post.

According to my colleague’s story, a retired businessman who loves treasure hunts decided to take one million dollars of his own money and create a nationwide treasure hunt. The money was converted into jewels created in the shape of various creatures, the most valuable of which is a spider valued at nearly a half-million dollars. He then had tokens made and hid the tokens throughout the country. He wrote a fairy tale with clues to the locations of the tokens and had the book published. Treasure hunters who follow the clues and find a token can redeem it for the jewel to which it corresponds. A number of families and even classrooms around the country have joined the hunt. Several tokens have been found and their jewels claimed, but a number are still out there … including the spider jewel.

THE TREASURE HUNT.

READ MORE HERE.

What struck me was how wonderful an idea it was for this gentleman to disperse his million dollars this way. Some may complain that he should have given it to charity, but as worthy as charities are and as much as they should be remembered by those with largesse to share, charities are not the only means by which people can be generous with each other. Sometimes it can be a good deed simply to give others pleasure … not to mention the thrill of discovery and the opportunity to spend time with friends and loved ones in the pursuit of a dream.

Jimmy Vs. James: The Googlefight!

GooglefightI’ve noticed that fewer folks are calling me "James" these days. Even some of the holdouts are finally switching over.

So on a whim I decided to see whether this is true of the Internet (where a lotta folks encounter my name) by going to GoogleFight.Com and squaring off "Jimmy Akin" vs. "James Akin" (putting the terms in quotes so that the names are single search terms).

And the winner is . . .

Jimmy Akin! By a landslide!

YEE-HAW!!!

Things are as they should be!

In case you may not be familiar with GoogleFight, it’s a service that lets you square off two search terms against each other and see which is indexed more times by Google.

For example, when George W. Bush fights Bin Laden on GoogleFight, he whips his butt with 23 million hits to the terrorist rat’s 7 million hits.

Similarly, God whips Satan. Burger King whips McDonalds. America whips Iraq. The United States whips France. The pen is mightier than the sword. And all is right in the world. (Mostly. Darth Vader does whip Luke Skywalker.)

Report your own Googlefights in the combox!

STAGE A GOOGLEFIGHT!

Roman Catholic "Romanism"

A recent thread, now closed, on the Catholic Answers Forums caught the eye of Protestant apologist James White. One of the Catholic posters said:

"I have a lot of missionaries who come to ‘save me’ from Romanism."

Puzzled, James White responds on his blog:

“Please note: Roman Catholics can refer to ‘Romanism’ all they want. Scott Hahn has done a tape series called ‘Romanism in Romans,’ for example. No one will blink an eye. But, if I use the term ‘Romanism,’ Dave Armstrong will write a 24 page article about it.”

GET THE POST.

Not to mention that the subtitle of Karl Keating’s first book Catholicism and Fundamentalism is The Attack on "Romanism" by "Bible Christians."

So. Does James White have a valid point? Are Catholics guilty of a double standard?

No, not really.

In both the quotation of the person White quotes and in the subtitle to Karl’s book, the word Romanism is used in acknowledgment of the manner in which Catholicism is perceived by anti-Catholics. Indeed, Karl’s subtitle makes this acknowledgment explicit with the scare quotes. The Catholic poster is using the word in the same fashion but without the scare quotes.

In the case of Scott Hahn’s tape set, it can be argued that the word Romanism is used in the exact same fashion: As a play on words that is intended to demonstrate that those anti-Catholic Protestants who think the letter to the Romans is exclusively Protestant in its theology would be surprised by how much "Romanism" the apostle Paul spouts. Given Dr. Hahn’s affection for puns, as demonstrated in his many books, it is unsurprising that he would choose to give his tape set on Romans such a title.

The word Romanism can also be used by Catholics in another way: It can sometimes be used as an inside joke between Catholics who know that it is often used in a derogatory fashion by anti-Catholics. Much as some African Americans have adopted for each other (sometimes even as a term of affection!) a certain word that is highly-offensive when non-African Americans use it to refer to African Americans, so some Catholics occasionally use words such as Romanist and Romanism to affectionately tease each other.

But the fact that some Catholics occasionally use otherwise anti-Catholic words to refer to themselves or to their religion does not give license to non-Catholics to presume that the words are any less offensive or anti-Catholic when non-Catholics use such words to refer to Catholics and/or Catholicism. Just as it is common sense that a white person using the "n-word" for a black person is committing a gravely-insulting racial slur, so it should be a no-brainer that a non-Catholic using the word Romanism as a substitute for the word Catholicism is adopting a religious slur.

Language can be a very tricky thing. A sign of the mature use of language is the recognition that certain words or phrases are sometimes appropriate and sometimes inappropriate and that the duty of a polite person is to learn the distinctions and observe them — however puzzling he may personally find such distinctions to be.

This Week’s Show (June 23, 2005)

LISTEN TO THE SHOW.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What does it mean for us to offer up Jesus’ sufferings to the Father? Why would we do that?
  • Is there a move to "restore" the order of the sacraments of initiation?
  • Can Jimmy recommend Lives of the Popes by Richard McBrien? What is an alternative resource?
  • Is B16 changing the way things have been historically done in canonizations by holding off on the canonization of a French priest?
  • If Mary was conceived without original sin, why does the Church hold out the possibility that she died physically?
  • What does the word porneia mean in the passages where Jesus talks about divorce?
  • Does the Catholic Church ignore the first thousand years of Church history and why does it regard itself as the true Church rather than the Greek Orthodox church?
  • Are deacons traditionally ministers of the chalice? How does this square with using extraordinary ministers for distributing the host?
  • Is there a resource written by an ex-SSPXer on the problems of this movement?
  • What is one to think of Thomas Merton? How to deal with those who rely on his more Buddhist-sounding stuff?
  • How can a sex offender find resources to help him live the Catholic life?
  • Why don’t we hear priests talking more at Mass about the state of our souls?

This Week's Show (June 23, 2005)

LISTEN TO THE SHOW.

DOWNLOAD THE SHOW.

HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What does it mean for us to offer up Jesus’ sufferings to the Father? Why would we do that?
  • Is there a move to "restore" the order of the sacraments of initiation?
  • Can Jimmy recommend Lives of the Popes by Richard McBrien? What is an alternative resource?
  • Is B16 changing the way things have been historically done in canonizations by holding off on the canonization of a French priest?
  • If Mary was conceived without original sin, why does the Church hold out the possibility that she died physically?
  • What does the word porneia mean in the passages where Jesus talks about divorce?
  • Does the Catholic Church ignore the first thousand years of Church history and why does it regard itself as the true Church rather than the Greek Orthodox church?
  • Are deacons traditionally ministers of the chalice? How does this square with using extraordinary ministers for distributing the host?
  • Is there a resource written by an ex-SSPXer on the problems of this movement?
  • What is one to think of Thomas Merton? How to deal with those who rely on his more Buddhist-sounding stuff?
  • How can a sex offender find resources to help him live the Catholic life?
  • Why don’t we hear priests talking more at Mass about the state of our souls?