A reader writes:
You may have heard about the priest in Las Vegas who is on the run after allegedly beating a parish worker. If not, the latest update is here. My spouse and I are parishioners at Our Lady of Las Vegas and are involved in the teen ministry. This weekend will be our first teen meeting since the incident occurred. I know we are going to get a lot of questions from teens; however, the entire parish still seems to be in shock. I don’t know what to tell the kids given that I still can’t wrap my mind around what happened. I know both people involved and it just doesn’t make any sense. Most of the teens have a fairly weak and immature faith. We’ve been trying to answer all their questions and misconceptions to help them develop a mature faith before going on to Confirmation. I worry that the disillusionment of seeing a priest that they all knew and respected as a wanted criminal will cause them to abandon the faith. Do you have any advice for us?
I had not previously heard about the situation, but I read the article the reader links, and it is truly horiffic. If the man did what he is reported to have done (which includes not just beating but sexually molesting and apparently threatening the life of the church worker) then it so shocking that I find myself at a loss for words to express the enormity of the situation.
It’s hard to know what to say in such a situation.
And that’s the first thing I’d say to the teens.
There are points when something happens that is so shocking, so horrifying, that words cannot express it, when we can only groan to God with the emotions we are carrying–shock, outrage, anger, sadness. It’s okay to experience those feelings. They are part of human nature, and the teens–like everyone in the congregation–will go through them in the coming days. That shows that they are normal human beings.
It is natural to turn to God with these feelings and not know what to say to him in prayer. This is natural, and God understands it. St. Paul speaks of this kind of situation in Romans 8:26, where he writes:
In the same way, the Spirit too comes to the aid of our weakness; for
we do not know how to pray as we ought, but the Spirit itself
intercedes with inexpressible groanings.
As we work through our feelings in the wake of such an event, we struggle to make sense of it in our minds. Here there are several things to consider.
First, evil is a real. Some people commit horrible evil against other people, and we have to remember that.
If the priest did what is reported then he has committed one of the worst forms of evil since he abused his position of trust and betrayed someone.
Jesus warned us that there would be people like this, even among men who claim to serve God. Jesus told us "Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but underneath are ravenous wolves" (Matthew 7:15).
Indeed, Jesus himself was betrayed by Judas–one of his own apostles. He knew the pain of betrayal personally–as well as the pain of knowing that it was coming.
God has promised that he will deal with such people. No matter what evil someone like this does, God will not let them get away with it. God will right all of the wrongs that have been done, he will heal those who have been hurt, he will make it up to the innocent who have suffered, and he will hold the evildoer to account for his deeds.
God gave us the state to investigate and punish wrongdoing of this sort (Rom. 13), and now the police are doing their job, investigating what happened and seeking the man so that he can be brought to justice.
What we should do now is pray that the man is found or that he turns himself in, that the situation is resolved without any more violence, and that the truth will come out. If the priest has done what is reported then he needs to be locked up so that he cannot do this to other innocent people.
At the same time we pray for this, we must also pray for his soul, because if he has done these things then he needs to repent and seek God’s mercy. God’s mercy is something we all need, and Jesus loved all of us–including the priest and his victim–enough that he took our sins upon himself so that we might be saved.
We need to pray for all the hurting people of the parish, for the woman who was beaten, and for the priest himself, who needs God’s mercy most of all if what is reported is true.
Whatever happens with this situation, God will make sure that justice is done and that mercy will be shown to those who seek it. So let us all seek God in prayer and trust him to help us in this horrible situation.
That’s probably as far as I’d go with the teens as a first effort. They are likely to have questions, and I’d do my best to answer their questions honestly and simply. I’d talk about my own feelings about the situation and let them see some emotion if it comes as you discuss it. That would validate and help them process their own feelings.
Of course, I would urge them to talk to their parents about their thoughts and feelings, and I would offer to talk to them myself as well, but the general points I would make and tone I would try to set is in the post above.
Now a few thoughts I wouldn’t address to the teens (unless they’ve heard about them and ask about them):
1) The fact that the priest backed off when he had the woman at his mercy is a good sign. It may indicate repentance or the potential for it on his part.
2) The fact that he ran appears to incriminate him.
3) His asking the woman if she was ready to go to heaven suggests that he may have had even darker plans in mind .
4) The fact that he seemed to suggest that he wouldn’t be taken alive is a bad sign.
5) His speaking of having been with other women at other parishes suggests that further investigation of his prior parish situations is warranted.
6) If he said that the only way he could get out of Lebanon was by becoming a priest then he may simply be a crook in sheep’s clothing, who was never really trying to serve God.
7) There is a significant possibility that some form of mental illness is involved here.
I’ll certainly be praying for this situation, and I ask my readers to keep it in prayer as well.