A reader writes:
Recently a (catholic) parish priest left the church in our town rather
abruptly. About a year later, the community learned why. He has since left
the priesthood and married a teacher who was teaching in that same catholic
school. There have been a lot of questions concerning him .What does the church teach, as far as a priest leaving the priesthood to
marry, and what can we say in response to some of the negativity regarding
this issue?
It depends on the situation.
The Church regards it as a tragedy when a priest leaves the ministry but it recognizes that there are cases in which it is pastorally prudent to allow this to happen. As a result, the Church has a procedure known as laicization by which a priest can be returned to functioning in the Church as if he were a layman.
This means (among other things) that he can no longer celebrate the sacraments apart from emergency circumstances (e.g., hearing the confession of a dying man). There also are restrictions on the kind of public role he can play in parish life (the Chruch doesn’t want such individuals to have too high a profile because of the confusion it can cause the faithful). Laicized priests may, however, be able to marry.
On the other hand, some priests simply abandon their ministry and do not pursue laicization. Some of these then attempt marriage in a civil ceremony, which results in an invalid marriage because the sacrament of holy orders creates an impediment to marriage that must be dispensed if the marriage is to be valid. This applies even if the priest formally defects from the Church. The only way a priest can validly contrat marriage is if he is laicized first.
I’m not sure how to advise you regarding the "negativity" issue. The fact that this gentleman left the priesthood and in a short space of time married a woman who taught at the local Catholic school suggests that there was at least an inappropriate emotional relationship between the two (and possibly more than that) before he left the priesthood. It wasn’t simply that he concluded that he did not have a vocation. There was some kind of malfeasance on his part when he was still conducting his ministry–and that’s assuming that he did pursue laicization and is validly married to her now. (Given what you say, he may not be.)
There is an element of scandal here (in the sense of setting a bad example that may lead others into sin) and a sense of betrayal on the part of those who the priest and the teacher served, and it is natural for people to be negative toward a situation like this.
Excessive negativity, though, is likely to be a passing phenomenon, and I would probably counsel patience regarding it. It is likely to pass with time.